ACK!
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Oh man! Oh man!
Okay, I know I promised that I wouldn't turn this into a dating blog and everything but holy crap! In case you missed the text of my email to climber guy it's in the comments from the last post. Lots easier to find now that I killed all the anonymous bullshit! And frankly if you don't read the last post this one will make a lot less sense.
So I sent him my little 'hey dude i'm interested in someone else' email and i think it was EXACTLY the right thing to do *if* I wanted him to get more interested in me. I feel a bit bamboozled because really who could have seen it coming? Except in retrospect it's kind of obvious. PV is into the guy and telling him that she won't date a guy who is also dating me. I'm saying 'i don't give a fuck, do what you want and by the way i'm just not that into you.' So of COURSE he wants me more.
You would think that in 34 years I would have figured out and remembered that one cardinal rule with most guys. Never show them you're interested because then they aren't. (although i think this is only true of the players and the less than sane ones... the sane ones seem to like women who go after what they want) See that rule has an obvious corollary right? The best way to get a guy to notice you is to tell him you aren't interested in HIM!
uh yeah... oops?
So of course he's all but but but and I'm trying to let him down easy and not give away the game for PV and he just keeps making these really inappropriate sexual comments so i called him on it. He decided he was kidding. Anyway he starts teasing me about being a hussy for dating two guys at once and I was all 'in my defence the lead time is really long but i do feel mildly hussyish' and he asked me if the reason i didn't go further on our date was because of this other guy.
Now I grok that I haven't been on a date in like 4 years (two of them i was in a relationship mind you) but since when do people fuck people on a first date? And even more since when do you fuck someone you met on an ONLINE DATING SITE on a first date? What I'm not supposed to have self respect?
And so I said that actually I'm a slowpoke (no pun intended honest!)[snerk!] and he didn't say another word. So silly me I figure that's the last of him.
But no, he pops up on the little IM thingy hours later and we chat for a while (what he's still hot and fun to chat with and it's not like the little british accent is bad either... :) and he was all asking me over for dinner and stuff which i sorta put off answering and which was really weird considering. Anyway finally he actually tells me that I'll have to keep it a secret from PV that we're hanging out! So I said 'yeah no i don't think so' and he goes 'k' and disappears!
Is it just me or is this shit weird? Even if he's a player it's weird. And he's sulking cause i'm hot and i climb and i'm not into him and he's awesome [as othercat would say 'a legend in your own lunchtime]. it's tres tres weird.
God I really hope he doesn't read this blog! *laughing my ass off* Can you imagine the trauma that would cause?
.
In other news I just finished August 2004 of Salam Pax' new baghdad blog and damm. That is one scary mother fucking place... and I am here to tell you that if you for a second aren't grateful to your decadent western lifestyle you just go and read his blog (or his book even better!)
.
Oh man! Oh man!
Okay, I know I promised that I wouldn't turn this into a dating blog and everything but holy crap! In case you missed the text of my email to climber guy it's in the comments from the last post. Lots easier to find now that I killed all the anonymous bullshit! And frankly if you don't read the last post this one will make a lot less sense.
So I sent him my little 'hey dude i'm interested in someone else' email and i think it was EXACTLY the right thing to do *if* I wanted him to get more interested in me. I feel a bit bamboozled because really who could have seen it coming? Except in retrospect it's kind of obvious. PV is into the guy and telling him that she won't date a guy who is also dating me. I'm saying 'i don't give a fuck, do what you want and by the way i'm just not that into you.' So of COURSE he wants me more.
You would think that in 34 years I would have figured out and remembered that one cardinal rule with most guys. Never show them you're interested because then they aren't. (although i think this is only true of the players and the less than sane ones... the sane ones seem to like women who go after what they want) See that rule has an obvious corollary right? The best way to get a guy to notice you is to tell him you aren't interested in HIM!
uh yeah... oops?
So of course he's all but but but and I'm trying to let him down easy and not give away the game for PV and he just keeps making these really inappropriate sexual comments so i called him on it. He decided he was kidding. Anyway he starts teasing me about being a hussy for dating two guys at once and I was all 'in my defence the lead time is really long but i do feel mildly hussyish' and he asked me if the reason i didn't go further on our date was because of this other guy.
Now I grok that I haven't been on a date in like 4 years (two of them i was in a relationship mind you) but since when do people fuck people on a first date? And even more since when do you fuck someone you met on an ONLINE DATING SITE on a first date? What I'm not supposed to have self respect?
And so I said that actually I'm a slowpoke (no pun intended honest!)[snerk!] and he didn't say another word. So silly me I figure that's the last of him.
But no, he pops up on the little IM thingy hours later and we chat for a while (what he's still hot and fun to chat with and it's not like the little british accent is bad either... :) and he was all asking me over for dinner and stuff which i sorta put off answering and which was really weird considering. Anyway finally he actually tells me that I'll have to keep it a secret from PV that we're hanging out! So I said 'yeah no i don't think so' and he goes 'k' and disappears!
Is it just me or is this shit weird? Even if he's a player it's weird. And he's sulking cause i'm hot and i climb and i'm not into him and he's awesome [as othercat would say 'a legend in your own lunchtime]. it's tres tres weird.
God I really hope he doesn't read this blog! *laughing my ass off* Can you imagine the trauma that would cause?
.
In other news I just finished August 2004 of Salam Pax' new baghdad blog and damm. That is one scary mother fucking place... and I am here to tell you that if you for a second aren't grateful to your decadent western lifestyle you just go and read his blog (or his book even better!)
.
posted by sassinak | 12:41 AM
5 Comments:
wowzers.
first off, most guys want to know, at later times, if they could have went further with a woman, if there was any room left to actually move further.
second, the "keep it a secret from your friend" thing is a major tip-off. ass bastard!!
not only would I tell her, I would tell her he said not to tell her ... but that's just my vindictive bitterness effusing ...
nice lady ... ah, you hate the playa ... do you also hate the game?
;)
dzer trust me, when a woman stops she stops... only if she's drunk are you going to get more out of her than she wants... this does not apply to girls and people lacking self confidence however. As for telling her i'm leaning that way myself... i think i might wait and see how she responds to my previous email regarding his asshatness... don't want to pile it on too thick at once.
bubblelicious she will believe me never fear... but if not micq logs everything! :)
t-love: word sistah! (some things don't need verboseness!)
yes!!! another person who uses the phrase "asshat!"
+150 points for you!
rofl!!
i love that word it's awesome!
and yeah, she's over him too.
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