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there have been some very nasty comments coming through some blogs lately and they caused me to make the following responses on emma's blog[which i will, of course, elaborate on afterward] (the post which inspired the hate comments and this response is here):

i think maybe that's the kind of person where you just delete their comments. it's hate mail pure and simple.

i wish blogger had a flag this profile option.

i know they're just trying to get a rise out of us. and i know that letting them means they win. so i'm not going to swear and yell but i will say this.

"let he who is without sin cast the first stone"


the more that i think about it the less i think it is appropriate to actually delete hatemongering comments. if you do that they just get even more self righteous and holier than thou than they already were.

sort of like those christian fundamentalists who show up at the gay pride parade simply to spread intolerance and bigotry. i mean it's an easy target right? show up in a large group of people who have been disenfranchised from the mainstream and hate them. it's not like any of the authorities will care.

at worst you will accomplish nothing and at best you will find others who share your hate or worse yet some poor lost child who will be susceptible to your particular line of bull.

the thing is, the people who don't agree with you and who think you are in fact working for evil can take cracks at you and make fun of you. the problem being, of course, that that will simply convince you of your rightness.

would that i could think of a loving way to enfold such people in the spirit of peace and sharing.

in fact i saw a lovely sign yesterday that said
"what would jesus do? ask yourself?
love or hate?
inclusion or persecution?"

and that sign was RIGHT. god damm it jesus made friends of the whores and the lepers because no one else was honest or loving. love each other and stay out of each other's bedrooms and the world would improve drastically.

which brings me to:
according to the buddhists it doesn't matter what your intentions are but only what your deeds are. thus they don't care whose name you do things in it's the actual deed they consider.

i like this because then when people hatemonger and claim that it's in the name of the lord the truth is clear. although you claim to work in god's name you are nonetheless evil. the same way that a satanist who goes around rescuing lost puppies and abused children is good.

whoever this is has such a small and sad life that they have to come around to popular blogs and make fun of people's weaknesses. this is extra funny because they don't even have the courage to put their own weaknesses out there in exchange.

can you imagine how unhappy that kind of person must be inside? i've never yet met anyone who was having a happy and fulfilled life (and the people who are happy and fulfilled also tend to live love and gratitude) who was also judgemental and cruel.

just doesn't go together you know.

kind of like how the homophobe is almost always gay...


that comment basically stands for itself but i will say this. if you are going to go around and make horrid comments on other people's web offerings you are no better than the trolls and the spammers who killed usenet.

what's extra tragic about this is that none of us trolled you.

none of us went looking for you.

none of us went by your blog and said nasty things [not that we could because you don't have the balls to post one] and i'm pretty sure that none of us went by any of your friends blogs and trolled them. on that last one i say this because like attracts like and none of my group are hatemongers.

none of us imposed our lifestyle choices on you.

you came looking for us for NO other reason than to make us feel shitty about ourselves and you did it in the most evil and low way possible. you came in through the back door and wished one of my friends DEAD!

and you are probably sitting self righteous and happy in your ivory tower and thinking about how you showed those sinners.

yeah you certainly showed them.

you showed them that once again more evil has been perpetuated in the name of GOD than any other word in the WORLD.

in the world.

you showed that intolerance and hate are alive in america today.

you taught us with your deeds how such nastiness as the klu klux klan can gain a foothold in the 'land of the free' and you definetely demonstrated what really is worth hating in our society.

i am truly beginning to believe that those who spread intolerance and bigotry and hate should be sterilised and rendered incapable of raising children. then at least you wouldn't be able to raise another generation of people who hate.

but you will.

in fact you're the kind of person that believes birth control is a tool of the devil so not only will you raise hateful little hooligans who think that bombing their fellow man is an excellent way to force them to agree with you? and who think that they really are entitled to their suv's? and who think global warming is an artsy fartsy liberal fantasy to get more votes? and who think science is a tool of the devil [unless you're making bombs]?

you're going to raise fourteen of them.

it's no wonder the good guys can't win. we practice RESTRAINT. for every one we make you make fourteen more.

frankly margaret cho sums up this entire post in one sentence:
"any kind of love is fine, it's your hate you gotta watch"

next time you're tempted to say something hateful? put yourself in someone else's shoes instead.

or do the tougher thing and try understanding their side of things and learning from each other. oh if only we could all learn to HEAR each other. what a world it would be.

"any kind of love is fine..."